The way you masturbate is normal.

The way you masturbate most likely isn't weird or unusual! 

I cannot count the amount of times someone told me that the way they masturbate was weird or unique. The most common thing that people profess to me as weird is that they lay on their stomachs and rub against a pillow, blanket, hand, toy, you name it!

It’s not weird, this isn’t unusual and in fact A LOT of women prefer to be laying on their bellies to orgasm and many prefer to use objects like a couch, table, shower head, pillow, *insert literally anything here*, in order to "get off".

But that is not what we see represented in television nor what we talk about with our friends or sometimes even with partners.

It is so important to your overall sexual wellbeing that there is no shame or disgust in the way you masturbate or in the way you achieve orgasm and pleasure. If you know that you can only ever orgasm on your belly with pressure on your clitoris, and then when you have partnered sex you are always on your back and only getting penetration, achieving orgasm in this sexual context just might be tricky.

You need to understand what you like, what you don’t like, and what feels good, and then navigate how to have these conservations with a partner; because YOU are in charge of your own sexual pleasure. Not your partner, but you. If you are comfortable with your body, if you know what you like and if you can confidently talk about this with your partner then you are more likely to be having the kind of sex that you want to be having and (hopefully) achieving more pleasure at the same time.

The bottom line is that in whichever way you masturbate, whatever way you orgasm and whatever way you enjoy solo or partnered sex is totally normal and un-unique. If you do something a certain way, then chances are there are literally millions of other people doing it the same way. If you are getting off or giving yourself pleasure, you cannot be doing it wrong. Period!

There is no shame in the pillow rubbing game!